"I required care after an operation. I specified same sex carers. (The care needed involved assisting with showering and dressing). On one occasion two blokes turned up. Very nice blokes, but I didn’t want them helping to shower me. I kicked up merry hell on behalf of people too scared to complain. They were short staffed. An admin person had been told to ring me to warn me. They didn’t. They were very apologetic. I pointed out, that to someone truly vulnerable or a survivor of sexual assault the arrival of two big blokes would have been terrifying. Even I found it mildly disconcerting."